Say Yes to Your Kids More Often With These 3 Tips

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The other day Z.E.N. told me he wanted to ask me something. When I asked him what he wanted, he said: “never mind, you’re going to say no, anyway.” I was floored when I heard him say that. I realized that I had a tendency to always answer no when he asked me things.  As a parent, saying no is important. “No” You can’t stay up late tonight. “No.” You can’t have cookies as a snack. “No” You can’t play video games on a school night. It is how we keep our children safe, set limits, and reinforce rules. However, there are plenty of opportunities where instead of saying “no,” I can actually say “yes” and still be an effective parent. So instead of saying NO, I’ve been trying to say YES more often.

For example, I recently said yes to…:

playing video games on a school night when there was no homework assigned;

playing video games

playing basketball indoors when it was raining outside;

playing basketball in the kitchen

letting Z.E.N. have his favorite beverage.


I have absolutely no problem letting him drink Capri Sun. I buy it specifically for him to take to school in his lunch box, but I always buy it in bulk because I know he loves it so much.  I love it too because it has less sugar than leading regular juice drinks. It also doesn’t have any high fructose corn syrup, artificial colors, flavors or preservatives. I buy it at my local Walmart. They carry so many varieties and flavors of Capri Sun which makes it easy to please everyone in the family.

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Being able to say to him makes him happy, which in turn makes me happy!

Of course, I have to push back sometimes. For instance, when he asked if he could have ice cream fifteen minutes after having breakfast, instead of saying no, I said: “Sure, you can have some after lunch.”


3 Tips to Help You Say Yes to Your Kids More Often

1.  When your child makes a request that you cannot agree to, offer alternatives. For instance, if your child asks if his/her friend can come over, instead of saying No, you can say something like “Sure, when you finish your homework, you can give them a call.” Or if your child asks you to buy a new video game, you can say “Yes, you can buy that. Let’s come up with some ideas on how you can save up for it.”

2.  Ask yourself: “What is the worst/best thing that could happen?”. If the positives outweigh the downsides, you have to say yes!

3.  Think before saying no. Take a moment to look at the bigger picture before blurting out “No.”

Make no mistake: parenting isn’t easy. It’s actually pretty hard. Sometimes we HAVE to say no. Just make sure that the “no’s” are necessary and not merely a knee-jerk reaction in response to your child’s request. Try to say yes and when you do, take a #yessie aka selfie with your kids!

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About the author


Diane is a New Jersey-based writer and blogger. She is a wife and the mom of a 13-year old boy. Through her blog, she wants to inspire moms to find Zen in their lives while offering practical tips and other valuable information to help families deal with everyday issues. Contact her at

Say Yes to Your Kids More Often With These 3 Tips

by Diane time to read: 2 min