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Why I Fear for my Son

Unless you’re living under a rock, I’m sure you’ve heard of the Trayvon Martin tragedy.  Apparently Trayvon Martin, who is a teenager, was shot and killed for the sole reason that he was “walking while black” in Sanford, Fl.  As if that wasn’t bad enough, law enforcement officials didn’t even conduct a real investigation into the shooting at the time.

Sadly, this is not the first time that something like this has happened, and It’s certainly not going to be the last. Is this what I have to look forward to as the mother of a black boy in America?  Should I ban him from wearing hoodies and sneakers and force him to wear suits and ties so that he doesn’t look “suspicious?”  How can I keep him safe?

I forced myself to listen to the 911 tapes.  The audio file below houses all the 911 calls that were made that night.  One call is from George Zimmerman, and others from nearby residents.  In some, you can literally hear the chilling sounds of someone screaming in the background.  Of course you really can’t tell who is actually doing the screaming, but it’s still scary.  I continued to listen as tears rolled down face trying to make some sense of the situation, but sadly I can’t make any sense of it.

Ever since all of the tea party party nonsense and rhetoric that sprang up back in 2008 when President Obama was running for president, Philip kept saying that this country is taking a turn for the worse.  He mentioned that maybe we should think about making a move to another country, maybe Canada or somewhere in the Caribbean.  I never took him seriously, but now, I don’t know.  I think he may be right.

Trayvon Martin 911 Calls
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Diane Nassy

Diane is a New Jersey-based writer and blogger. She is a wife and the mom of a 9-year-old little boy. Through her blog, she wants to inspire moms to find Zen in their lives while offering practical tips and other valuable information to help families deal with everyday issues. Check out Diane's Google+ profile "


  • It’s sad that people can’t be safe walking through their own neighborhoods.

    Everyone is unsafe somewhere. The important thing is to find a place where you are safe.

  • Tea Party Rhetoric? How about all of that liberal rhetoric? I’m a member of the Tea Party, and that is NOT rhetoric. I’ve attended several tea parties, I’ve even given speeches at Tea Parties. As a tea party member, I know that all we want is a return to our country’s values and to eliminate the corruption in our government. I don’t care what party you’re from, corruption is prominent in BOTH of the parties right now. I don’t like most of our current politicians.
    What in the world does Obama or the Tea Party have to do with this tragedy that happened? NOTHING. The guy who shot this kid was a psycho, he shouldn’t have even been part of the neighborhood watch. I truly feel sorry for the kid who was killed, it should have never happened. And the guy who did it needs to be locked up for life or given the death penalty. But don’t bring the Tea Party into the picture as if it has some sort of correlation.

    • This was not meant to be a political debate and I will not allow it to become so. The mention of the tea party and Obama is based on MY belief which I believe I am entitled to on MY blog. Your America is different from my America. I am not one to run around crying about race relations, but racism is alive and well and I think it’s even stronger now. But yes, the tea party does spew A LOT of rhetoric. The definition of rhetoric is basically the art of speaking well and using buzzwords & phrases to evoke an almost contrived emotional response from a select audience. Political rhetoric involves using buzzwords and phrases that play to a specific constituency to evoke an emotional response & garner support for politicians and media. Um, I think ALL politicians do this. The problem I have with certain politicians are the blatant untruths. This is why I always check and after watching debates, speeches, etc.. because so much of what they say is untrue. Unfortunately and sadly, there are millions of people out there who just lap up whatever they hear and believe them to be true.

      End of rant end of political debate.

      • Both of you make a fair statement. You really can’t blame tea party rhetoric making the country worse. I’m not a tea party member, but I think the reason why individuals have a tendency to get so polarized in their beliefs is the state of the economy and so people are susceptible to certain fears and change is a difficult thing for all. The case of Trayvon Martin is sad because it’s the fact that this place in America continues to be in denial about race relations in that town and want to do their own thing without any respect to civil liberties or following the law. Now I am not African-American and I am not from Texas (I’m from Hawaii) but I can definitely feel the sadness when I walk past places in TX notorious for lynchings etc. I don’t know how we are going to get past this, we all have freedoms and should not have to be afraid to wear a hoodie. We all have a right to LIFE, that is the lesson in this case – no matter what political party. People really need to get back to basics and understand wrong is just plain wrong. We all shouldn’t have to suffer for the delusions of others whether they are crazy or not.

  • It’s a truly sad state isn’t it? Where I grew up, I was actually the minority in my neighborhood (I am whiter than bread! :P) but I never had to fear for my life just for looking different than others around me.

    People can say what they like about the fact that he had the “suspicious clothing” like the hoodie, but if he were a white child in the same clothes in that neighborhood, there’s a good chance it would have just been thought of as some teenager going through a stage.

    My prayers go out to his family and I hope that this tragedy can start discussion in this country. Our heritage is written all over our bodies and it’s way beyond time that we stop seeing it as such a horrible thing.

  • Our children no matter color, age, size, clothing ect are just not safe in this day and age as parents have given up or dont have time for their kids so they grow up in the streets and all hell breaks lose. I think times need to revert. When i was a kid i hated having to be home when the street lights came on but i was safe and now i understand.

    • So true. I was surprised when my 5 year old came home from school earlier in the school year and told me that his Kindergarten class did lock down drills at his school. I grew up in NYC and like you, I always had to be in the house once it started getting dark. My parents were very protective and I have a feeling that I’ll be the same as a parent.

  • It breaks my heart that this happened. We should not have to fear what our children wear may cause an issue. If you did dress him up in a suit and tie he would then be persecuted for that, there is no winning this war, just praying for our children’s safety will have to do.

    • Speaking of bullies, a twitter friend just tweeted hat her kid in pre-k is getting bullied. Can’t believe that. It just seems to start earlier and earlier.